What if there was a way to stop the fighting? To deepen your relationship. To become connected again.

There is.

Let me ask you some simple questions: Do you want the fighting in your relationship to stop? Do you want to stop looking at pictures from the early part of your relationship and wonder what happened? Do you want to be connected again?

Research is very clear about what it takes to love again. You need skills. Simple but important skills.

Dear friend, welcome to the Fight Less, Love More 10-day online program for couples who want the pain to stop and want to be connected again.



But before I tell you about those skills, I want to tell you a story.

Our marriage was in trouble. We had focused on career, kids, education, saving money, and all those things newly married couples focus on. At some point, we started to neglect each other. We were living like roommates ten years into marriage, and we could not seem to connect. 

We would have conflicts that would last for weeks. We would sleep in separate spaces and only interact to carry out the business of running the household. It was a miserable existence. The other surprise was that we were mental health counselors and should have known better, but for a long time we did not see couples in our practice so we did not encounter troubled relationships directly. Oddly enough, when our relationship was getting worse, we started seeing couples, but that in some ways was a good thing, because we were now confronted with the idea of making change ourselves. This prompted us to do more research on how couples can really connect and stop fighting. We then began to apply the research techniques to our own marriage and teach them in our practice. 

We decided to go on a journey to reconnect. We worked hard to understand each other, put each other first, and be invested in each other’s growth. Over time, connection came back to our marriage. We watched in amazement as the nature of our conflict changed. We still had disagreements, but we fought differently. There was no need to force our opinions on each other, no strong need to resolve everything NOW. There was more “I’m sorry,” more interest in the needs of others. We felt at peace even in disagreement.

As we grew more connected, we became convinced that our clients had to enjoy what we now enjoy. We began to teach our clients the simple skills necessary to have a connected relationship, to fight less and love again.

We learned:

  • To hold hands again
  • To listen again
  • To be affectionate again with no expectation of sex
  • To forgive again
  • To value someone we know good and bad about again
  • To feel free again
  • To relax again

We were amazed at the results. Simple changes to the way you communicate with your partner can bring huge dividends. A kiss in the morning, choosing to notice the positive, showing interest in your partner as a person, being excited to be in his or her life: we have watched hundreds of individuals introduce these strategies to have a happier, more connected relationship

Video Message Dr Carlos and Natasha Todd

“You can be connected again”

We are offering the same opportunity to you.

Now is the time to take the next step. You still love your partner but are frustrated with the fighting, and with being disconnected.

We will give you the skills to walk into a more peaceful, connected relationship. 

 

It is possible to fight less and love again, but trying the same old tactic that has not worked will only lead to more frustration. The feeling of loneliness in marriage is gut-wrenching: you in one room, him in another, pretending you have a great relationship, but you know the truth. You want more but have no idea how to get there.

The answer is to learn new skills.


Staying for the kids is noble, but there is something worse than divorce: commitment without connection. 

We are offering you an opportunity to have both commitment and connection.


In 10 days, you can learn skills that will restore your relationship with further skills that have been scientifically proven to reconnect couples. This is the perfect opportunity for couples who may not have been able to go to counseling to have a personal counselor for 10 days.


In our video, we walk you step by step, day by day, through figuring out how to STOP the fighting and get connected again. We teach you what the research says but also what we as a couple have done and shared with hundreds of couples to restore their relationships.  

Here are some testimonials from others who have worked with us, attended our live events, or listened to our broadcast at Couples Fight School on Facebook. 

TESTIMONIAL

Here’s just a few people who have going through our program!

My relationship with my husband has evolved so much since I've been listening to Dr. Todd’s Facebook segments. I have learned to listen more to my husband as I often dominate the marriage. It used to be my way, and I used to malice my husband for days/weeks if I didn’t get my way.

The most significant takeaway is that I realized how broken I was; it’s based on my childhood and what I was exposed to, growing up with my West Indian parents.

Therapy is not for everyone. But if you can admit to yourself that you are not happy with yourself or with your partner, consulting or listening to Dr. Todd is worth a try. He is transparent and very astute on relationship conflicts. I’ve been in therapy for about a year now, and it’s way different from the way Dr. Todd presents it. I used to blame myself for a lot of conflicts in my marriage. But after participating in his workshops I quickly realized we both have lots of unresolved issues. I can now instantly identify my faults and my spouse’s demise during a conflict. My marriage is now stronger and healthier.

- Dion


Just jumped the on the “Couples Fight School” train and have been already gaining wonderful insight on how to “fight” for my marriage the right way! So far, I’ve already seen multiple videos of various marriage topics in their archive and watched two of their broadcasts live and *already* have learned some valuable insights! The couple is super-friendly, encouraging, humorous, always open for questions/comments, and I love their fresh perspectives and approach to handling marriage conflicts/issues. The effort they put into setting aside time to talk to the community each week is greatly appreciated! It’s pretty fun! I hope soon I can see them in person and sign up for a Couples Fight School event! Thanks a bunch!!

- Ellen


I have gotten some excellent advice and words of counsel from Dr. Todd and Mrs. Todd. It has been a great experience so far. Definitely looking forward to learning more.

- Amy


Being able to connect with Couples Fight School’s live discussions is so refreshing. Professional and genuine advice on hard topics in relationships definitely helps put things in perspective.

- Sandra


Whether the topic affects me indirectly or directly, I appreciate the exchange of knowledge and thoughts. Thank you for sharing the knowledge and time.

- June


I love the advice given on here. It’s not one-sided and can help both genders. The tools given here are meant to help save relationships, and they do help you find clarity.

- Tatiana


My husband and I have been in a relationship/marriage together for over fifteen years and I get insight on what’s healthy, boundaries, and having a fight plan. This page is a Godsend for couples wanting to continue working on and tweaking your relationship with your other half.
Rick

Excellent advice. I’ve gotten so much from listening to your live feed. Looking forward to seeing you both in person at a workshop. Highly recommended!

- Linda


Your Relationship Experts:  

Carlos Todd, PhD, LPC

Dr. Todd and Mrs. Todd are dedicated to helping men, women and couples transform the pain of childhood trauma into triumphant living in their individual lives and marriages. Dr. and Mrs. Todd have been married for 15 years. Dr. Todd is a native of Barbados and Mrs. Todd is a Native of Trinidad and Tobago. They are both mental health counselors with more than 30 years combined of experience in the field. They are also both licensed in the State of North Carolina as Counselors. They both hold bachelors and master’s degrees from Andrews University and Dr. Todd holds a PhD in Education. Dr. Todd’s dissertation focused on creating a model for organizational conflict management.


Dr. Todd focuses his clinical work on anger and conflict in its varied forms. As a childhood survivor of domestic violence he has the personal experience of dealing with an unsafe, unstable home and the journey of through that pain into a happy, productive life as a husband, father, and clinician. It is this passion for self-improvement, the drive to understand conflict and the heart for helping couples find love through conflict that infuses his work.

NATASHA PEMBERTON-TODD, LPCS

Natasha is a powerhouse who stands on her own. She too grew up in a home where her guardians where emotionally unavailable. The pain and loneliness of this childhood lead her on her own personal journey to be the wife, mother and professional she is today. Today, Mrs. Todd works to help women and children overcome trauma. Both Mrs. Todd and Dr. Todd are transparent about their own pain and journey of recovery. They consider themselves fellow travelers on the road to being better humans. Working together Natasha and Dr. Todd provide, individuals & couples the skills to reduce internal and external conflicts with the goal of creating men and women who live their true calling, and more connected and productive relationships.

The key to fighting Less and Loving More is to learn new skills.

Staying for the kids is noble, but there is something worse than divorce: commitment without connection. We are offering you an opportunity to have both commitment and connection.


In 10 days, you can learn skills that will restore your relationship with further skills that have been scientifically proven to reconnect couples. This is the perfect opportunity for couples who may not have been able to go to counseling to have a personal counselor for 10 days.


In our video, we walk you step by step, day by day, through figuring out how to STOP the fighting and get connected again. We teach you what the research says but also what we as a couple have done and shared with hundreds of couples to restore their relationships.  

Here are some testimonials from others who have worked with us, attended our live events, or listened to our broadcast at Couples Fight School on Facebook. 

Love is possible again. The fighting can stop but you need SKILLS. You will not transform your relationship by doing what you have always done.

We have done all the work for you. We have taken two decades of counseling experience and the latest research and condensed it into 10 seven-minute videos you and your partner can watch and discuss to get that connection you always wanted.

Here is a sneak peek at the topics we will cover in 10 days. Each day, you will be sent a video link by email for you and your partner to watch at your convenience.

By the way, you will own these videos forever, so you can go over them again and again.

Enjoy Samples of Day 1 & 2

  • Why fighting fair is important and how to fight fair to save your relationship 
  • Make peace with the hurts of the past
  • See your partner’s faults as an opportunity
  • Forgiveness is a skill. Here is how to forgive
  • Stop trying to resolve everything in your relationship. Conflict resolution has nothing to do with trying to solve problems. 

5 more days of video content awaiting you to transform your relationship

The time to reconnect with your partner is now. This opportunity is one that couples have paid thousands of dollars and spent months in therapy for. Its yours for  

 $97.00